‘I’d love to change career but I can’t.’
Does that ring a bell for you?
As a career coach I have heard that many a time and it always makes me wonder what it is that makes the speaker use this word ‘CAN’T’ as a barrier. What is it that leads them to assume that this barrier is impossible to break through?
When you find yourself saying ‘I can’t…’ to any challenge, observe the internal reaction that accompanies it. Does it make you feel like curling up, turning away, shrugging your shoulders and giving up?
Just stop and observe
Then stop and ask yourself – ‘Is it really impossible?’
If you were to put 1000 different people in
your shoes and present them with the same challenge that you face, would they
all turn away with the same shrug and declare it impossible?
Or would some of them respond differently? Is it really so impossible?
In many situations, thinking or saying ‘I can’t’ is simply an indication that some piece of the jigsaw is missing. It could be that you:
And there are many more excuses!
Because this is what they are – excuses. I don’t deny that these issues present a hurdle to overcome, but none of the above is ‘mission impossible’.
What it really boils down to the difference between ‘I can’t’ and ‘I won’t’
For some people, being faced with ‘I can’t’ is a signal to take action, to find out how. Rather than turning away, it is an opportunity to explore how they can find the knowledge or help they need to move on.
People who respond to ‘I can’t’ with a shrug followed by doing nothing are really saying ‘I won’t’. Let’s be clear about this, they are choosing to turn ‘I can’t’ into an insurmountable barrier so they can stay stuck in their uncomfortable comfort zone.
So what about you?
Are you a ‘can’t’ or ‘won’t’ person? How would your life be different if you decided to become an ‘I can’ person instead?
Why not try it out for a day and see what a difference it makes!
"Feel the fear and do it anyway"
Time to realise that you will never get rid of the fear that accompanies taking a bold step - the two go hand in hand. So learn to welcome that ‘frisson’ as a positive sign that you are taking charge and growing your life.
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway
Susan Jeffers, the author of this amazing international bestseller, died recently on 27 October and so I thought this was a good moment to share this great book with you again.
This book was certainly instrumental in my own leap of faith when I left my job to set up on my own. It is full of wisdom about this emotion that can cripple so many of us unnecessarily.
For most would-be career changers, fear is a big hurdle that blocks their way, and for many it becomes an insurmountable barrier that locks them into a life that makes them miserable. Do you want to be one of those people or will you make changes in your life in spite of it?
Here is what Jeffers wrote:
In the book, Jeffers shares her own journey through fear, so her advice is grounded in personal experience. She will help you to challenge what you are really afraid of anyway and give you a set of tools, not to make the fear go away, but to confront it and live a better life as a result.
She defines five core truths about fear which are worth repeating here, and if you are at risk of letting fear hold you back, then I suggest you pin these up on a notice board at home where you can see them every day!
With best wishes for your career change success
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